Aleksandra Oliwia Scibek- Summer in Minnesota, USA

Summer in Minnesota, 2024

“An amazing experience - more than just a trip, it was an unforgettable inner, cultural, emotional, and spiritual journey.”

Memorable moments

The most memorable moments of this trip were the people I met. The lifelong international friendships and connections I made during my stay in the U.S. are priceless. Despite a rough start - walking into a pole, getting hit by a door, and even taking a basketball to the face - I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. Staying and engaging with everyone was the best decision I could have made. I quickly became part of an international family, feeling a deep sense of belonging and comfort.

Initially, I worried about fitting in with such a large group, but everyone was on the same page. There was no judgement, only respect, which helped me build my social skills and confidence. The most beautiful realization was how much we all had in common, despite our different cultural backgrounds. We shared similar experiences, fears, hobbies, and life goals. Breaking down stereotypes and anxieties allowed us to connect on a deep level, creating memories and bonds that will stay with me forever.

New culture

Evening classes with Ryan were enlightening, revealing that despite geographical and historical differences, the cultures of Korea, America, and Ireland share many similarities. For instance, family is a cornerstone in all three cultures, with a strong emphasis on family gatherings, maintaining contact, and respecting parents and elders.

One surprise was learning how similar our interactions with romantic partners are across these cultures. I had assumed that traditional practices like arranged marriages were still common in Asian cultures, but I was pleasantly surprised to learn that Koreans, like Europeans and Americans, are free to choose their partners. Their social activities, like going to coffee shops, cinemas, and group outings, mirrored those of people in the West.

Religion was another area where I noticed differences, as our group of 32 represented a wide range of beliefs. While discussions on this topic were intense, they were also fascinating and respectful.

Music, too, was a universal language that connected us all, whether we were listening to the same artists or watching the same movies. This experience shattered many of the stereotypes I had, despite considering myself open-minded. I realized that even though I had travelled extensively and prided myself on being nonjudgmental, I still had preconceived notions that were quickly dispelled.

Challenges while abroad

One of the first challenges was adapting to the food in America, which took some getting used to. Another challenge was my anxiety about making new friends and being around so many people. At home, I don't have much of a social life, so I was worried this would be overwhelming. But by pushing myself, I made extraordinary connections and am still in daily contact with some of my American and Korean friends.

The hardest part was saying goodbye after four weeks of becoming so close. It felt strange to return to our respective countries and become "strangers" again. Another unexpected challenge was the language barrier - not between the Koreans and the rest of us, but between the Americans and the Irish! We speak the same language, but many words and expressions have different meanings.

Making friends

Making friends with the Ulster group felt natural because we had to stick together, especially since we arrived earlier than everyone else. I quickly connected with one Korean girl, and we’ve remained close, staying in touch regularly. However, the rest of the Korean students were less inclined to mix, which was a bit disappointing.

Meeting the Americans was initially chaotic. They were only with us two days a week, and the "speedy dates" that Ryan organized were overwhelming for my social battery. But after taking a step back and regrouping, I eventually made amazing friends. We spent time together after classes, exploring local spots and discussing everything from culture to politics. These experiences gave me a local perspective that differed from what I knew from the news or movies.

Advice

DO IT! Don’t worry about being homesick or missing your partner or family - you won’t have time to miss them. This experience will be more enriching than you can imagine.
You will fall in love with Duluth - it's a truly special place! Along the way, you'll make amazing friends, gain unique knowledge, and break many stereotypes. This trip changed me and the way I think. I gained a wealth of cultural insights, made lifelong friends, explored incredible places, and significantly boosted my confidence and social skills.